Abiding 2 – Much to Offer, Little to Say

the dudeYou may have noticed that I’ve been writing less lately. No, I’m not too busy, I just don’t seem as motivated to write. It has something to do with the concepts I outlined in “Less Striving, More Abiding” and “Thinking Just for Fun.” My thoughts are still flowing freely, and I’m enjoying figuring things out, but I don’t feel as compelled to spread my conclusions around. It’s a new sensation for me. Thinking without communicating about it. Abiding with my ideas.

There was a time, and not too long ago, when if it was in me, it had to come out. I’ve been like that my whole life. If you knew me, you would know what I think.

Although expressing myself hasn’t always gone smoothly, it has been a learning experience. First I learned that I’m not always correct. Embarrassing oneself with confident pronouncements subsequently shown to be in error will help with that. Next I learned how to raise issues and share my ideas without being a jerk about it. (You’d be surprised how long it takes to learn things like this.)

Most recently, I’ve learned that many people don’t want new ideas. We’re all prone to get too comfortable with our own understanding, and most of us avoid challenges to our worldview – too much cognitive dissonance. I’m sure you can bring to mind issues from diverse fields (e.g. business, lifestyle, politics and religion) and many individual topics where facts don’t seem to matter much and people hardly ever change their minds.

It took me a long time to really get this because, often, people invite new ideas, only to reject them, no matter how compelling. Sometimes it’s subtle – listen, nod, not disagree (or even agree), then do nothing. Other times it’s overt hostility. Mostly it’s somewhere in between. So I’ve learned to hold my peace, to not share what I think, when rejection seems likely. Although I learned to keep it in, it certainly wasn’t natural for me. I’ve had to work at it.

That’s what seems to be changing now. I don’t have to work at it.  I don’t think I did anything.  Must be the Holy Spirit at work.

People sometimes introduce me as a “speaker” and “author” (especially when I’m speaking). That never seemed quite right to me. I’ve never thought of myself as author, but rather as a man with a message. Writing was simply a means to communicate a valuable message. Similarly, I’m not a speaker; I just had something to say.  I still have the “something,” even more than before. But I have a lot less to say.

Thinking. Abiding. Feels fine.


  1. Compelling, captivating, connected are your writings!

    Jesus did not write, but, Oh what He said was timeless and written down!

    Times that your soul is quiet are the times of reflection that the Holy Spirit is silently nudging your next revelation.

    We are not to quench the Spirit…write on!!!

  2. Deb Novak says:

    Love your honesty. Cognitively totally get it-wish I was better at practicing it. Really enjoy reading your posts and always enjoy our conversations. Have a great weekend.